TODAY! I Will Answer Your Questions By Phone from 10-noon PST

December 20, 2013 | Web Version Parent, Please call me if you have questions about signing up for the Teleclass   805-272-8607 10am - Noon Pacific Time   I won't be coaching, but I will answer any questions you have about the class, content and payment information.  Register now, last day to save $75!   Are you ready to set up your kids for a life of success?   How you parent really matters.     When you are in the thick of it, it's easy to just put your head down and get through another day.  It's easy to think your kids will grow out of this stage or they won't remember any of this anyway.  That couldn't be farther from the truth!   The truth is many behaviors will only get worse as children become teens and negative experiences may not be remembered consciously but they shape who your children become.   What your kids learn from you and how you interact with them really matters.  Your parenting impacts their self esteem, their ability to successfully navigate through their lives, the relationships they seek and create and ultimately how they parent their own children in the future.     Most of us struggle with how to parent in a way that is fun for us and empowering for them.  The Positive Parenting Tele-Class is designed to give you tools so your family has: Less Stress More Cooperation Peace, Closeness, Connection FUN!     With all the tele-classes recorded you will also have a library of parenting resources available to you now and in the future!   I will personally guarantee the class for you.  If you take the class and listen to all the calls, and don't feel it was worth every penny and more, I will cheerfully refund your payment.    So don't wait, sign up now and get started with your bonus material so you can have fun and cooperative holiday season.   Start 2014 ready to go with your first LIVE call on January 7!   Happy Parenting!   Debbie Godfrey Positive Parenting debbie@positveparenting.com (805) 648-6846 If you no longer wish to receive our emails, click the link below: Unsubscribe Positive Parenting Po Box 612 Ojai, California 93024 United States (805) 648-6846

What Happened When I Yelled at my 2 yr old Son

December 19, 2013 | Web Version Dear Parent,   I recorded an 8 minute YouTube Video about the upcoming Positive Parenting Teleclass.  This video is a response to some of the questions I have received about the class.  I also share a story about when I yelled at my son when he was little and what I learned from him. The first 1.5 minutes I talk about the payment options for the class.  The story about me yelling at my son starts at 1:30 if you want to just view the story.  At 3:30 I go over the bonuses you will receive when you register in the class.   I also wanted to share another success story with you.  Valerie, a mom that signed up in the Positive Parenting teleclass last month has been busy using the tools she has learned from the bonus material.  I spoke with her yesterday on the phone and she shared this story with me:   "My (almost) 8 year old daughter tends to ignore my requests until I have to yell at her.  I realized listening to your Pep Talks and from the call that I need to learn to ask her only once and follow through.  Now, I ask ONE TIME ONLY, and when she doesn't do what I ask, I walk upstairs, and approach her with love and a smile on my face and WITHOUT SAYING ANYTHING and she RUNS out of the room to do what I told her!"   Way to go, Valerie! And I told her we would work in the class on getting her daughter to do the request when she asks her, without having to walk up the stairs.  YES!  I can teach her that!  Don't you want to learn that too?   I am so excited for all the parents that have signed up for the Positive Parenting Teleclass.  I am busy getting to know you individually.  We even have a mom from Istanbul, Turkey that is in the class.  She has 8 yr olds twins and I can't wait to help her!  So I am curious, why haven't YOU signed up yet?  This is an opportunity to begin the New Year off right, being the kind on Mom you always dreamed you could be, disciplining your children with love, rather than through fear and possibly breaking their little spirits.  I can show you the way, and I have helped thousands of parents, so I know what I teach you WORKS!  Do you want to have success stories like Valerie and Wendy?  Then sign up now for the class.  This is the best Holiday gift you can give yourself and your family, one that will last all of you a lifetime.   Happy Parenting!   Debbie Godfrey Positive Parenting debbie@positveparenting.com (805) 648-6846 If you no longer wish to receive our emails, click the link below: Unsubscribe Positive Parenting Po Box 612 Ojai, California 93024 United States (805) 648-6846

8 Things that may cause your kids to need therapy

December 18, 2013 | Web Version Dear Parent,   A common fear many parents have is that you will do something that will cause your kids to need therapy in the future. I know when I was raising my kids, I used to say to myself, "I just want to parent in a way that my kids don't need to go to counseling when they grow up".  And, while I don't have anything against counseling, in fact, I strongly suggest counseling to many parents and for many kids, I did not want to be the CAUSE of my kids needing therapy.   Here are some common mistakes parents make that kids can "misinterpret" in a way that damages their self-esteem and causes emotional/social problems later on: Yelling at them Spanking in anger Not valuing them (in the way a child feels valued) Comparing to others, including siblings Not allowing kids to be kids Allowing children to be disrespectful to parents and others Not setting good limits (and following through) Not understanding how a child thinks and why they act the way they do I'm sure there are more, but these are some of the most common.  The upcoming Positive Parenting Teleclass is designed to help you parent in a way that builds your child self-esteem, while at the same time causing them to be respectful and responsible.  Do you want this?   Do you want to know that you are doing everything in your power to be a good enough parent? Do you want simple tools that get your kids to behave better and are FUN? Do you want to feel like your are doing a GREAT job as a mom? (or dad!) Do you want to have a class and an instructor (me!) that cares deeply about you, your children and your family?   Then please register now for the upcoming Positive Parenting Teleclass. For the cost of about 4 counseling sessions, you could prevent years of counseling in the future.  Are your kids worth it?  Mine were, I think yours are too.  Join me on this journey and learn the tools to be the fantastic parent you always wanted to be.   Happy Parenting!   Debbie Godfrey Positive Parenting debbie@positveparenting.com (805) 648-6846 If you no longer wish to receive our emails, click the link below: Unsubscribe Positive Parenting Po Box 612 Ojai, California 93024 United States (805) 648-6846

Parent, Hear Mom Wendy's 2 Success

December 17, 2013 | Web Version Stories within 48 hours of signing up for Class   Wendy has given me permission to share her success stories with you.  She signed up for the class right after listening to the FREE CLASS ON POWER STRUGGLES.  If you haven't listened to it yet, WHY NOT??  You could be having these successes right now with your own kids!  Wendy sent me this email just 2 days after receiving her free bonus material when she signed up for the class.  This is her complete email:     I have four children ages 12, 10 & 13 mths (times two). My 10 year old step son is usually super sweet and so helpful. He doesn't usually argue when he's asked to do something. Actually, normally, he does above and beyond what is asked of him.  But lately, he has been really trying to get extra attention and engaging in many power struggles. He constantly wants to debate with me and he has been arguing about EVERYthing. It's so out of character for him, and I didn't want to deal with it in a harsh way because he is normally such a good kid.  But I didn't want his new way of dealing with things to be unknowingly reinforced. (I miss the "real" him.)   I was so excited to get tools on how to deal with it. Yesterday, I used the sing song one word to remind him to clean his bowl. He did it immediately. When his sister asked him what he was doing and he said, "mom asked me to clean my bowl." But I only used one word! I also tried the smiling with no words and just gesturing towards something else I asked him to do. He knew right away what he was supposed to have done.  He got up and went to do it within a few seconds.    I also tried the GEM with him. We have a pretty good relationship and I normally take time to take a few minutes to give him undivided attention. But he just really seems to need it lately. It was really nice. I was rewarded with cuddles and "you are the best mom" and "I love you more".    I am really excited to learn more parenting tools! I really don't feel good about my parenting skills when I have to raise my voice or ground them to get the children to cooperate. It makes me feel like I have failed. Last night, I felt like I won without a fight and I got to see my real son again.    Thanks!!!   Now Wendy is obviously a go-getter...she's motivated to have a better relationship her kids, and she's willing to take action now!  Not everyone who signs up for the Positive Parenting Teleclass immediately listens and watches the bonus material, but Wendy, did, and look at the results!!!  Now, just ONE DAY after I received her success story, she posted ANOTHER GREAT SUCCESS STORY ON FB:   This morning, the funniest thing happened. I watched Debbie's power struggles parenting video. There's a tool where you walk over to your child, put your hand on them, smile til they look at you and gesture at what they were supposed to do. I have been practicing this for a couple days (with some of the other tools). Today, Garrett, 10,  started giggling up a storm when I did it. He said, "I love it when you do this. It's like, no consequences, but lots of love and cuddles and still with, 'but, you are gonna do it'." He was giggling like I was tickling him. Then he kissed me three times and did what I asked in the first place. The control part of mommy was a little triggered by the "no consequences" comment until he got up and did what I asked.   You don't need to wait for Friday's deadline to start parenting so much more easily and effectively, without yelling, grounding, spanking or getting upset!  Register now and get $75 off by using coupon code positive75   Debbie Godfrey Positive Parenting debbie@positveparenting.com (805) 648-6846 If you no longer wish to receive our emails, click the link below: Unsubscribe Positive Parenting Po Box 612 Ojai, California 93024 United States (805) 648-6846

Ok to listen to recording with your kids!

December 16, 2013 | Web Version Parent,     I thought you might be like many moms (or dads!) and think that you don't have the time to listen to the recording about dealing with power struggles.   I have a great idea for you, listen to it with your kids!  You may be like some parents and think that if your kids find out your "secrets" than they will somehow use that information against you.  I have found the exact opposite to be true!  When my kids were little, I often watched the parenting videos and even read some paragraphs out of the book out loud to them.  They often understand EXACTLY the idea behind these tools and why they work.  They often respect us even more for trying to be a better parent!   If you have already listened to the recording, GREAT JOB and I'd love to hear from you!  Send me an email. Let me know your feedback about the workshop and any questions or comments you may have.  I especially love to hear success stories of how you use these ideas with your kids.   Happy Parenting!   Debbie Godfrey Positive Parenting debbie@positveparenting.com (805) 648-6846 If you no longer wish to receive our emails, click the link below: Unsubscribe Positive Parenting Po Box 612 Ojai, California 93024 United States (805) 648-6846

Recording up for a limited time!

December 13, 2013 | Web Version   Dear Parent,     Positive Parenting Teleclass is Open for Registration!  And I wanted to share it with you!  There are so many great parenting tools I have learned over the past 20 + years working with thousands of parents and raising 3 GREAT kids myself...I want to give you EVERYTHING I know about parenting.  Tools to create kids that: Are respectful and responsible Get along with others, including their sibs! Can think on their own, learn to make good choices, & are self-motivated Have high self-esteem Are good people, care about others and contribute to society You love to hang around with, aren't embarrassed by and that you are proud of And so much more.   We had a great call Wednesday on Effectively Dealing with Power Struggles, get ready for lots of hands-on information you can use! The call is one hour and 10 minutes and packed with tools you can use.  Thank you, Robin, for volunteering to be my mom so I could show everyone why kids misbehave and how to identify the purpose behind their misbehavior! You can access the recording here: Power Struggle Tele-class or Power Struggle Tele-class   This recording will only be available until December 20, so be sure to listen soon!   I also took 10 minutes to talk about the 15-week Positive Parenting Tele-class I will be offering through Queen Mom starting January 7th!   Register By Friday, December 20, using coupon code positive75 and your registration will include: $75 off the complete 15-session course including 2 Bonus Q & A sessions! If you chose the payment plan, your first payment will be only $24! Bonus Recording of 70 minute Call: Resolving Sibling Conflict Bonus Video: Dealing with Power Struggles The link to Deb's 200 Parenting Pep Talks! 2-Free Workshops on MP3, your choice of 2: Dealing With Power Struggles Sibling Rivalry & Fighting Taking the Hassles out of Homework Building Self-Esteem What To Do When Your Kids Are Driving You Crazy And a $95 Coupon for any Queen Mom Course in 2014!   Coupon Code: postive75 expires 12/20! There are few things worse in our daily lives as moms then struggling with our kids and NOTHING BETTER than victories and feeling great about our parenting! If you are looking for a comprehensive Positive Parenting course with personal attention, humor and a community of supportive parents we invite you to register today!   Happy Parenting!   Debbie Godfrey Positive Parenting debbie@positveparenting.com (805) 648-6846 If you no longer wish to receive our emails, click the link below.  WARNING- Clicking this link will delete you from my database: Unsubscribe Positive Parenting Po Box 612 Ojai, California 93024 United States (805) 648-6846

You Can't Make Me!

December 9, 2013 | Web Version   Dear Parent,   As parents we all know that being in a power struggle with our child can be one of our toughest challenges. Click here to reserve a spot in a free teleclass this Wednesday at 11am (Don't worry, if you can't make the call on time, you will receive a recording).   Taking care of ourselves so we can be patient and mindful enough to deal with our kids effectively is critical. Having great parenting skills in our well-oiled tool kit is – FUN!     Are you ready to end the power struggles and have more fun parenting?   If yes, then join Debbie Godfrey from Positive Parenting and Jaime Myers from Queen-Mom on Wednesday, December 11th at 11AM PST/2PM EST for a Free Call:   "No I Won't and You Can' Make Me!" - Effectively Dealing with Power Struggles       On this fun and engaging call you will learn: What we do that has us be ineffective, loose our child’s respect and have them tune us out (hint: almost every parent does it!) 2 Questions to ask yourself in the midst of a power struggle that work like magic! The cure for “parent deafness” in children!   Ways to develop self-motivation. How to minimize the hassles, tantrums and tears. An approach to feel calmer and have more joy in parenting. PLUS! Debbie’s #1 Parenting Tool that no parent should be without! A recording will be sent to all those who register for the free call and an Extra Queen Mom Bonus offer with your Positive Parenting registration! To reserve a spot for the call click here.  By reserving our spot, you will automatically receive a link to a recording of the call if you are unable to attend live.   I believe as parents we can never have enough good tools! Come play on Wednesday, December 11th and leave with more ways to have fun and peace in your parenting!   See you there! With appreciation for moms & dads everywhere!     Debbie Godfrey Positive Parenting debbie@positveparenting.com (805) 648-6846 If you no longer wish to receive our emails, click the link below: Unsubscribe Positive Parenting Po Box 612 Ojai, California 93024 United States (805) 648-6846

Lying, Fighting, Picky Eaters...New blog posts

December 5, 2013 | Web Version Share:     Dear Parent,   Help!  My child is....   I've noticed many parents are at their wits' end with problems with their kids.  I have been writing articles and responding to questions as fast as I can.  You go to my Positive Parenting Facebook Page, and ask questions there.   I have also written several new articles, including: Kids Lying - The Biggest Mistake parents make When Spouses Disagree About Parenting Issues 3 Ideas for Picky Eaters The Next generation May Not Need Parenting Classes** (**This one has a picture of my 5-months-pregnant daughter, Briana **) Handling Children's Feelings Getting Kids to Nap What Do I Do About My Kids' Fighting?     Register for another FREE Teleclass on Power Struggles on December 11 at 11am.  Even if you can't attend LIVE, you will receive a link to the recording if you register. Happy Parenting!   Debbie Godfrey Positive Parenting debbie@positveparenting.com (805) 648-6846 If you no longer wish to receive our emails, click the link below: Unsubscribe Positive Parenting Po Box 612 Ojai, California 93024 United States (805) 648-6846